What we’ve experienced when we were younger, doesn’t just disappear in a lot of cases. Even when you think you’ve moved past it and it doesn’t bother you anymore, it might still be affecting you below the surface. A lot of the time we realize that the way we grew up wasn’t exactly normal. Or we know that something happened that wasn’t okay. At the same time we compare what we’ve been through with others and we downplay our own experience. “Look at what that person survived! I shouldn’t complain.”
When we’re all grown up, we struggle with everyday stuff that goes so easily for everyone around us (or so it seems). Somehow we don’t manage to put two and two together. We don’t see the link between our childhood and the difficulties we have in later life.